{real weddings} love and theatre on the north shore

Katy and Ethan’s wedding was a favorite of ours last season.  We contacted Katy about her November 22 2009 wedding and she was thrilled to indulge us in the details! 

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It could be argued that I had been planning my wedding for over a decade.  My husband Ethan and I were high school sweethearts – nearly 12 years later we finally decided to tie the knot!  The day after we got engaged, we moved across the country to Los Angeles, where Ethan was starting a new job.  Our first year in Los Angeles was spent planning a wedding that would be taking place on Long Island, 3,000 miles from our new home.

OH HAPPY DAY!| The phrase, “Oh Happy Day” had somehow worked its way into my vocabulary years ago. Ethan and I felt there were no better words to encapsulate all we wanted from our wedding day.  Printed on everything from the marquee outside Theatre Three, the cover of our ceremony programs, to our menus and cocktail hour coasters, those three simple words became the theme for our HAPPIEST of days.

Our invitations were designed by my husband’s sister Marci.  We brought the design to Just A Note in Port Jefferson where Caryn found an amazing company to print them.  Caryn did all the other stationery (menus, signature cocktail explanations, place cards,etc…) “in house”.  She is FANTASTIC.

GETTING READY| I had NO idea what type of wedding dress I wanted, and I had one weekend back east to find my perfect gown – eek!  Thankfully, on the morning of my wedding, when I slipped into my Marissa dress, I knew I had made the right choice. Our wedding party attire was simple and elegant; we wanted our beautiful flowers (all reflecting the vibrant colors of autumn) to stand out among the dark grays and navy shades of our wedding party’s clothing.

THE CEREMONY| My mother was constantly reminding me that the wedding ceremony is the most important part of a wedding day. Ethan and I took this to heart and made sure to make the ceremony just as memorable as the big party afterwards!  Our ceremony took place on stage at Theatre Three in Port Jefferson.  Not the most traditional place for a wedding ceremony, but to us, it made perfect sense.  Theatre Three was where I first fell in love with theatre, which led me to the performing arts high school where I met Ethan.  We didn’t have a lot of flowers at the theater – we wanted the space to speak for itself.  From our minister (my Maid of Honor’s father) to our ceremony musicians (Theatre Three’s finest, and my first voice teachers) every part of our ceremony had a very personal touch.

BACK TO THE BEGINNING| Not far from Theatre Three is the house I grew up in, where Ethan and I had our first awkward kiss at the age of 16.  The house stands empty now (up for sale), so we knew we wouldn’t bother anyone if we took some photos on the front porch.  A neighbor happened to be doing some handy work in the house, so as an extra treat we were allowed to go in!  Christina Bohn was able to capture some beautiful photos of my childhood bedroom where I had spent so many teenage nights hoping Ethan would ask me to marry him!

A WARM RECEPTION| I wish I could say I walked into the Old Field Club and just knew it was the perfect spot.  The reality is that because we live 3,000 miles away, my PARENTS walked into the Old Field Club and knew it was the perfect spot!  The Old Field Club is a bit off the beaten Long Island wedding path, looking less like a catering hall and more like a New England home.  After seeing the photos of the huge fireplace, the gorgeous bar, the water views, I couldn’t have been more excited.  Our dinner options at the Old Field Club were hand picked by Ethan and I to reflect our favorite meals from all across the country.  The head chef Walter and I spoke almost daily concerning all the menu details!  Needless to say, our guests raved about the food!  Two days before the wedding I showed up with countless “special touches”: luminarias, goody bags for our youngest guests, pictures of Ethan and I from our past (just to name a few). When I walked into the Old Field Club the day of our wedding EVERYTHING had been impeccably displayed.  The Old Field Club reflected our long history together, and set the scene for our hopeful future!

DON’T FORGET YOUR DANCING SHOES| After scouring the island for a wedding band that reflected our taste (and our budget), we were distraught and defeated.  One night, we went to hear a local band play at a dive bar out east.  Enter, the Lone Sharks.  After dancing the night away, we approached them to play at our wedding and they agreed!  Cheaper than a traditional wedding band (actually there’s nothing traditional about them at all) and a whole lot more “our style,” we made the perfect choice for our wedding.  Judging by all the empty seats and packed dance floor, we think our wedding guests would agree!

DETAILS. DETAILS. DETAILS| A lot of “details” can often times translate to, “a lot of money spent on little things”.  For me, the details of our day reflected all of my wonderful memories with Ethan as well as a way to honor many of our family and friends.  During our cocktail hour we had two signature cocktails, ‘The Atlantic’ and ‘The Pacific’ to represent both the east coast and the west coast. The cocktails were created by a dear friend, and executed perfectly by The Old Field Club bartender.  Our table numbers were not numbers at all!   Instead we used vintage postcards (all bought on Ebay for less than 2 dollars each) from our favorite places on each table.

The gorgeous mantel at the Old Field Club was decorated with dozens of antique bride and groom cakes toppers (my mother’s collection).  Pictures of Ethan and I from all of our travels acted as a backdrop for the place card table.  In lieu of a guest book, we had a blessing bowl.  First appearing at my bridal shower as a gift from a family friend, the blessing bowl was a place for my shower guests to write a brief blessing for Ethan and I. We loved reading the blessings so much that we decided to use the blessing bowl again at our wedding!  Our favorite detail of all?  The figurine of our dog, which was placed next to our cake topper (antique of course)!

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Ceremony Location| Theatre Three, Port Jefferson
Reception Location | The Old Field Club, Setauket
Photography | Christina Bohn Photography, Stony Brook
Band | Lone Sharks
Florist |Sugar Magnolias, Stony Brook
Bride’s Dress | Marissa Bridal
Suits | Banana Republic
Bridesmaid’s Dress | JCrew
Stationery | Just a Note, Port Jefferson